I was talking to someone about another person who had offended her. She said ‘I can get on with her now alright. But I will never forgive her’. It was revealing: the ‘will never’, rather than ‘can’t ever’.
I was struck by the sense of defiance even of pride in that resolution never to forgive. It was as if she knew she had the ability to forgive, let go and move on. But, for whatever, reason she preferred to stay with the bittersweet chemistry of resentment and anger.