We cannot learn to be still without learning to love ourselves. We learn through the stillness of meditation, to treat our own anger with compassion, our own irritability with compassion, our own judgementalism with compassion and tolerance and non-violence. We come dimly to understand, as we enter into the school of love, that this love of self leads to love of others and to love of God, and that this is one love. It is the same reality.
(Aspects of Love 2 by Laurence Freeman OSB )