The way in which we learn to love others within that relationship is to withdraw our projections from them. To love others, we cannot condemn them to playing out the roles of our idealised projections. Withdrawing those projections is a major step in maturity and it is the work, of course, that we perform in meditation. As we enter into the solitude of our own uniqueness, we naturally withdraw those parts of ourselves that we project outwards through fantasy on to others. That’s why our relationships change as we meditate day by day.
( Aspects of Love 2, by Laurence Freeman )
