Humility asks that we be assured enough in ourselves. However, it is easy to demand what we do not have now, desiring the fulfilment of a lack that we feel life has dealt us. The Rule and community teach us that becoming one in Christ together means the slow changing of this kind of desiring. This Desire has many forms. The Desert Mothers and Fathers called them passions. Be it ambition, anger, jealousy, possessiveness, self-loathing, isolation from others, fusion with others – whatever it might be that originates from a deeply held sense of loss and woundedness.